3 Things Living Together Has Taught Us

When Clayton and I moved in together, we thought nothing would change. We found the perfect apartment, had most of the furniture we needed, and pretty supportive families to help us transition from college living to "adult" living. But I think it is safe to say that we've learned more about each other in these past few months, then we have over the course of our relationship.

We Have to Make Time to Talk

It might seem like you're going to have all the time in the world to talk about things. I mean you're living together now, right? Wrong!! Life got even more hectic when we moved. We both have jobs, families, bills, and other various headaches to handles; not to mention Clayton and I worked opposite shifts! It is honestly so hard to find time to sit and talk about things. Clayton and I make it a point to really give each other our undivided attention on the weekend. We will also tell each other, typically through text, that we want to talk about something. This lets both of us understand that we need to make time to have that conversation and don't let things get pushed under the rug

Our Definitions of Clean are VERY Different

I will be the first to admit that I am a bit messy at times. When it comes to work and school, I loved being organized. I live for planners, folders, and organization products of any kind...but when it comes to keeping my bedroom clean, I kinda let that slip at times. Now that we live in our own place, I make a conscious effort to pick things up and clean as I go instead of letting it pile up. I've gotten really detailed oriented about cleaning as well. Clayton is a bit relaxed when it comes to picking things up, and unlike me, he focuses on the big picture. If it's out of sight, it's out of mind....We've had to handle this issue head on! I'll get mad about the towels he leaves on the bathroom floor, but he'll get mad about all the makeup I leave on the bathroom sink...it's called balance lol :) In order to relieve each other of the house chores and stress, we both have decided to get up earlier in order to put up things away and clean up! As for all the glasses, I pick up after him....We're still working on that!

Our Energy Levels Won't Always Be in Sync...and That's OKAY!

With both of us working different schedules and trying to juggle 800 different things, it can be super hard to catch each other at a good time. There are plenty of days that I get up at the crack of dawn and I'm ready to go and do stuff, all the while, Clayton wants to sleep in and have a lazy day. That can be hard because we want to take advantage of all the time we have together. We've both learned that it's totally okay to let each other do our own thing and get together later! I'll go to the gym or run errands while Clayton sleeps in. Or when I'm feeling lazy, Clayton will go grab us breakfast and do dishes, while I get in a cat nap! Again...it's all about balance lol

Living with your best friend is so much fun, but it is definitely work! We've had to change some of our habits and learn how to balance each other out. Most importantly we've learned how to not get on each other's nerves lol! I think we can both say, we are ready to spend many more years together!